Quarelling, Squabble, and Arguement...

It is almost 5am in the morning but I am still awake.... Mouse non stop clicking and keyboard being pressed restlessly... Me, my hands and my brain too non stop functioning and make me wonder why not I feel sleepy as I was not have enough sleep for the past few days? Is this called

INSOMNIA?!!

Unintentionally, I read a quite interesting post in Snowice's blog. It is composed in English and to those who can read Chinese word, this is an advantage for you~ The post is as below:

不知你們有沒有想過，其實我們最容易跟自己吵架的人往往是自己的家人…情人…或是好朋友。原來最常跟我們有爭執的人竟然都是跟我們最親密的人，而能夠跟我們發生爭執的人也對我們有一定的了解，所以有人常說『吵架』也是一種溝通，而願意跟你吵架的人，才是真正想了解你的人。

有時候我們與人發生爭執時都會說到『算了』，或者『不說了』，這兩句話其實都是殺傷力很強的話，就代表著自己不想把自己的想法跟他說，也不想讓對方太過了解自己。

有時兩個人爭執，忽然聽到了一句話『我是為你好』；在感情的世界裡，每個人都很自私，有人常會對你說『我是為你好』，這其實是很不負責任的說法，因為我們會把自己的觀念加諸在別人身上，為他人決定一些事，但是再想想，對對方來說：難道你的方法真的可以幫到我嗎?

你為他決定了事情，但是要負責的人卻是他，這是很不公平的，不是嗎？唯有他自己才能決定什麼是對自己最好，若是錯誤的決定也才不會有埋怨，也才能對自己負責。『通常願意留下來跟你爭吵的人，才是真正愛你的人。』

有句話‘每個人天生就不一樣‘

這句話讓我領悟了很多………….

因為不一樣~自然而然每個人所看的所想的也不會相同不要怪別人不夠懂你~換個立場~

其實我們也不敢說自己有多了解他人，能從吵架中表達出自己的想法總比大家把話悶在心裡都不說出來的好，但千萬要避免在衝動時說出傷害對方的言語有些話~一旦說出口~就很難收回了~

所以要珍惜曾經跟自己吵過架的人哦~ ^^

According to her, if you are alert enough, quarrel and squabble frequently happen between us and our your loved ones regardless family, lover or good friends! Those who willing to spend time quarreling with us want to know more about us through quarreling and to make you the better one! They are those who truely care and love us. Hence, quarrel is communicative~ How far do you agree with her? To me, totally~

When comes to quarreling, the responses of 'let it be' or 'no point talking about it anymore' are quite a hurting ones. Indirectly, you are preventing others get to know you more and you are trying to hide your feelings... Of course, you are killing one's spirit by doing so especially your loved ones... And do not blame others by saying 'it is all for your own good' because it is one of the way you throw your respobnsibilities to others by saying so. Let's imagine if a girl got pregnant and she told her boyfriend about it and the boyfriend told her to have an abortion by saying 'Darling, it is for your own good"... Ugh, super irresponsible isn't it!

Everyone is special in his own way. So when comes to different stand or opinion, try to put yourself into someone else shoe. This reminds me on one saying I read in Ice's blog, there is no 100% perfect partner but two 50% people. When the first time I read this, I was thinking if you are in a relationship, how can your partner is not 100%? Well, I think it make sense after I read the post above. The incomplete partner is meant by there will no completely the same people in the world, so it will never be perfect BUT his love for you can be more than anyone else expected-THE POWER OF LOVE so called. No matter what happen, commitment, trust, tolerate, appreciation etc. are very important elements in maintain a relationship. Avoiding and giving up are never a good way~

When talking about this commitment, I remembered one saying about commitment in Cleffairy's blog which is very meaningful and full of inspiration! It says:

"there are only two options regarding commitment. You are either IN or you are OUT. There's no such thing as life-in-between~Pat Riley. "